Boyfriend lurking in the background

So I finally decided to talk to Nicole about this. After watching her instagram pictures. I text her since we are   "just friends" and nothing more. I asked her how long has she being single. Her answer was just 4 months. That confirms a lot of things. So after we dated on December 2010 she got back with her ex. I remember that on facebook she posted "engaged". Event dates match.

Of course she got mad that I was questioning her about the pictures. She only answer to her family. She celebrated 5 years anniversary with him. She explained that not as a couple but as the time they know each other. Kind of weird. The picture that she published seems a really romantic one. I dont know if girls post friendship anniversary pictures on the internet. I am thinking they only do that for lovers.

Something that really bothers me is that they are "best friends". She swore they are now only friends. But they seems to see each other quite frequently. I know that's a huge red flag.

Man are possessive and they don't like too share. I highly doubt that any man would let his current girlfriend hang out with an ex. How stupid can she be? I am thinking her age is the reason. But I know 21 year old girls that are smarter. So maybe is not the age. Maybe she is actually stupid.

I cant believe Armando let her daughter date someone older for that long. This guy cheated on her, made her fail her school semester and sent her to a psychologist. Still she forgave him and went back to a relationship. I think they are meant to be forever together. No matter what other man do, they will always go back together.

I think now I am to start the process to forget about her. I should expect her to send me back my gift. I created a rule. No gifts for girls until they become officially my girlfriend.

Hope this time I keep my rule. The weird part is that she got mad. I am suppose to be mad not her. On a certain way I feel relief. She is not a long term material for a relationship. She just proof that she is not worth.

Someone came back

I got an email from Nicole several weeks ago. She wanted to know about me. She gave me her cellphone. I called her and we had a friendly talk. After that day we have being texting each other almost daily.

We are making plans. She can visit me in Feb 2013 and I will visit her on March. I have being doing some background checking. Apparently she was engaged on May 2011. A few months after we were dating (Dec 2010). Also she posted on facebook that this year she ended a relationship. It kind of bothers me. I was going trough her facebook and got her instagram account. I found that she posted several pictures in the last 20 weeks. In some pictures she is with a guy. I am thinking that's her ex boyfriend.

One picture that truly bothers me is where they are both together in Chicago. Probably they spent the night together. I can believe some is that stupid to post pictures and saw stupid things that "love forever". I never did that with my ex.

Most of our texting involve flirting. We finally touch the age difference. She seems fine with me being that much older than her. I, as a man, dont care. In fact I feel better. Man always love younger women. I order a gift for her through Amazon. I dont know if it was a good idea.

I do like her but I just feel that she has to much baggage with her. I dont feel comfortable with her past. Something that I have learned is women never forget the boyfriend that they had between 18 and 21. Probably his memory will be there forever.

I am afraid to invest in her and she suddenly goes back with her ex. If I know the story correctly. He cheated on her. Some how she forgave him. She continued the relationship with him after dating me.

My personal opinion is once I date a girl. She should never date another man at all. Long distance relationships are always a waste of time. She has emotional baggage. Boyfriend lurking in the background. I am thinking maybe I am a rebound again.